As the new school year draws closer, I have been reminiscing over when I first came to college.I remember every detail of my coming to school, and it amazes me how far I have come. I decided to share my story with you all in hopes that it will inspire someone out there who is about to go into college, or who is already in college.
I didn’t take my college applications seriously. I only wanted to go to one school(which I didn’t get into), and every other place was a second choice to me. I hated the process of applying, especially SATs because standardized tests are personally created by the devil. I didn’t study hard for my SATs as I couldn’t be bothered about whatever score I got. I made up this excuse in my head that i was focusing on my WAEC(an exit exam that high school seniors have to take) so as to make myself feel better about not caring for SATs. When I got into college I felt nothing. I was more excited about leaving high school than going to university. It wasn’t until I was about to enter the car with my mum on our way to the airport in Lagos that I realized that I hadn’t thought out this college situation.
On getting to California, I was swept up in the glamorous life of college purchasing. I was excited to see how my room would be setup, with all the colorful things I had bought for it.I was so excited to buy actual everyday clothes as I said bye-bye to the uniform lifestyle. It was a blissful life.
The day my mum and aunt dropped me at school, I was sooo scared. In high school, we had this tower, that you could see from quite a distance away from the school. Whenever we were going back to school after the holidays, the sight of that tower signified the impending gloom to come. The tower served as a timer for how much time you had left with your family, and the site of it always made me lose my appetite.That was the same feeling I had going to college but it was worse because at least in high school I had friends.
We got to international student orientation late.My mum had to leave all my stuff in the ISO office because I had to join them for a welcome activity. It wasn’t until I got back, and realized that I had to unpack all my belongings myself that the gravity of my situation really dawned on me.I was ALONE. I had never been alone in my life. I grew up with five siblings. I went to boarding school where I shared a room with like ten other people. I may have been lonely before that, but at least I wasn’t alone. The Nigerian in me kicked in, and I had to find friends.
I came into college as a Psychology major. I didn’t even realize that was what I had applied for.(remember I didn’t care about the application process) The first day of classes, whilst other first years where trying to awkwardly locate their classrooms, I was frantically emailing my advisor to know what classes exactly I should be taking. I was eventually able to get into my proper classes.
I write this story because we go into university with very high expectations, and you should.But just as with everything in life, you need to be flexible and re-adjust when need be. After my first month of college, I looked into transferring out. I would like to tell you that I went from disliking it to loving it but that’s a lie. To be honest, the only reason I stayed is because trying to transfer to another college as an international student is a long thing. E hard die! So when I realized that it wasn’t going to happen, I went ahead to make this place a conducive environment for me for the next four years.
I wish you the best. As the semester draws closer, I will continue to bring you some more tips, advice and hacks to the best of my ability. Ehn, I forgot to add. My research program is ending this week and I’m sad. I will do a post on what I learned through this program. I hope you all found this post helpful and educative.
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The idea of your blog is really good Adaora! Think you should pay more attention to spelling though. Spotted two errors x_x but looking forward to reading more from you & watching your blog grow.
Thank you very much. let me know if there is anything else you would like to see.
Really impressed and happy you are putting your talents to good use